While we’re on topics of romance and love this week with Valentine’s Day, why not talk about weddings as well?
I know a few people planning weddings right now, and they all seem to characterize their wedding-planning experience as “stressful,” which makes me a bit sad. While I won’t say my wedding planning was without a moment of stress, I would say overall it was “fun” – much more fun than stressful.
My main wedding planning tips are these:
1. Keep it simple.
2. Do what you want.
Here’s what I recommend:
Start with a Vision.
Where/how do you see yourself getting married?
For some people it’s important to make their commitment in a church. Others may choose a place that’s personal or meaningful for them. We got married in a park by the lake under a big tree. Trees represent life, eternity, and family, so it made sense to me. Also, both of us enjoy being outdoors, so it was perfect for us.
Select your venues.
Your venues will serve as a framework for the rest of the event and will have a great impact on all the other, smaller decisions such as decorations, seating, etc.
Some venues require you to choose from a specific list of caterers or florists. This can help narrow down your choices, which can be a big help.
Keep it cohesive.
As you move on to smaller decisions like flowers and even invitations, think back to your original vision and to your venue. Does everything match? Does everything you’re adding contribute to your overall wedding theme or statement?
We went for understated elegance, so when it came to flowers, I said, “I want white roses,” and that was that.
Do marriage counseling.
Marriage counseling not only helps you prepare for the marriage – fostering discussion about what marriage means to each of you and what you anticipate your roles as husband and wife will be like – but it also keeps you focused on the meaning behind the wedding day, which can help keep things in perspective.
It’s not about a grand, one-day event with an ostentatious display of succulent food and frilly flowers. It’s about the two of you making a commitment to one another.
Our wedding was me saying to my husband and him saying to me, “From this day forward you are the one person in the world I am most accountable to and most accountable for.”
Everything else you do or prepare for the day is just to signify the significance of the day or the bond you share.
To see more on our wedding, including my handmade wedding dress, check out these previous posts:
All photos taken by Mike Tseng Studios, (a wonderfull Dallas wedding photographer).